The Art of Seducing a Woman with your Mobile Phone

Posted February 28th, 2008 by Kathryn in Society, Funny Mobile Stuff

Every smart man knows that the cornerstone of a successful relationship is great communication. In the modern world, your phone is a crucial component to that communication. The mobile phone etiquette that you use can make or break how much a woman wants to get to know you … and it can cause the relationship to thrive or disintegrate as time goes on. If you’re a man who thinks that just remembering to call is good enough, you need to read the rest of this article. And even if you think that you know the phone game, you might discover that there are some mobile phone relationship tips that you (and your relationships) could benefit from.

An overview of the issue:

Mobile phones today provide many opportunities for connecting with a woman. From that first click-to-call voice connection to that final break-up (which is okay by phone conversation but not by text!), you can use your phone to move your relationship through different levels. Of course, if you don’t know what you’re doing, your relationship could suddenly go awry and you might not even know why the woman has stopped calling you. By using the right etiquette with all of the different phone features that are available to you, you can make sure that things stay sizzling as long as you want them to.

The first phone call:

Your very first mobile phone communication with a woman should be a phone call. A voice message is an acceptable alternative if she doesn’t pick up the call. However, a text message is not. Whether you know her from around the office or you are using a click-to-call widget to connect to an online-only friend, you should make sure that her first impression is of your voice. Here are some additional etiquette tips for that first phone call:

• Ask her if she’s free to take your call. Many girls will answer their cell phones when they’re already in the middle of something else. Show some courtesy by making sure she has the time to chat.
• Ask how she’s doing and then listen to her answer.
• Keep it casual and brief. Say why you’re calling and don’t take up too much of her time unless she starts getting chatty. Minutes cost money after all.
• Ignore all of the other rules. The old rules that men use such as “don’t call until three days after a first date” or “wait two days to return her message” are bogus. Call her when you want to talk.

Voice messages:

Whether it’s the first time that you’ve called or the fiftieth, there’s a chance that you are going to get her voice mail. Here are the rules of phone etiquette that you should follow to get and keep her interest:
• Say you’ve been thinking about her. Sure, it should be obvious since you called but she wants to hear it anyway.
• Don’t mark messages “urgent” unless they actually are; no one wants to date someone who thinks he’s more important than he is.
• Revise your message if it sounds wrong the first time; they give you that feature for a reason.
• Call her when you know that she won’t pick up just to leave her a surprise message.

Text messages:

SMS messaging can be a terrific way to stay in touch with someone throughout the day. You might not have time to talk but you can still let your lady know that she’s on your mind. Here are the do’s and don’ts of text messaging when it comes to romantic relationships:

• It’s always okay to flirt by text message. Women get a tingle in their toes when they receive a great message. Whether it’s sexy or sweet, she’s going to enjoy getting it from you.
• It’s never okay to whine or sound needy in a text message. “Why haven’t you called me?” is not an acceptable SMS message.
• Keep it short. SMS messages are supposed to be brief so don’t get wordy – it’s annoying to have to scroll through multiple messages to get the point.
• Text right after leaving a date or first thing in the morning to say that she’s on your mind.
• Important things should not be discussed over text message. Asking a girl out on dates early in the relationship shouldn’t happen by text. Marriage proposals and relationship break-ups shouldn’t happen over text. Basically, anything that you’re texting because you don’t have the guts to actually hear her answer is something that shouldn’t be sent by text message.

Ring tone music:

There are two different types of ring tones. First, there’s the tone that you hear when your phone rings. Second, there is the music that she hears when she calls you. If you have the option to personalize either or both of these things, you should. The music should be something that’s sweet and personal to something that the two of you have shared, whether that’s a band that you both love or a song that was heard on your first date. Be a little sentimental here because she’s going to appreciate it every single time that she hears it. Make sure that your other rings are different from hers (and less personal) so if she hears them, she doesn’t feel like she’s not as special as she thought. And ignore when your guy friends rag you about it because guys who will do these cheesy things are the ones that get the ladies. 

Camera phones:

The camera feature on your phone can be used in a number of ways to get and keep a gal’s interest. Here are some ideas:

• Take a photo of some place that you’re at and send a message that “it would be better if you were here”.
• Use the phone to capture a picture of your smiling face and tell her that she always makes you smile.
• Use the camera phone together to take some sexy pictures; you might even use them as your default pictures for each other although you’ll want to make sure you keep your phone private if that’s the case.

Risque options:

For couples that have been together awhile, the cell phone can provide some terrific ways to keep the sensuality sizzling in your relationship. Long distance phone sex when you’re on vacation is just the start of what a cell phone is good for. Write out a fantasy that you want to act out and then send it to her in pieces via text all throughout the day. There are even adult toys that use your mobile phone to keep connected. The more creative that you can be with your phone, the more likely your relationship is going to keep its passion.

Other calls:

The real key to keeping a woman’s interest over time is to make her feel like you’re still as interested in her as you were when you first met. Many men don’t realize it but a dead giveaway that you’re not as keen on her as she wants you to be is when you start paying attention to your phone during the time that you’re spending with her. Ignore text messages and don’t answer the phone when you’re with her unless it’s absolutely necessary. This sends her the message that you’d rather talk to her than chat on the phone and that’s going to keep her interested in giving her attention to you.

When she isn’t answering:

There is an important point to be made when using any of these mobile phone relationship tools. That point is that it only works if she’s receptive to receiving your message. Men who are overly persistent, excessively needy or who have tendencies to stalk women through their phones are men who aren’t going to get anywhere in their relationships. Here are some things that you should never do if you want her to keep picking up your calls:

• Call back multiple times in a row. If you get her voice mail, leave a message. Don’t keep calling and calling in the hopes that she’ll pick up.
• Repeated text messages when she hasn’t responded. If you’ve sent more than three texts without any kind of response, you should stop sending them until you know what’s going on.
• Ignore what she says. If she says to stop calling or to leave her alone or to give her a break, you should listen. Communication is a two-way street and if you can’t hear what she’s saying then she isn’t ever going to want to talk again.

The summary:

Mobile phone communication can be a terrific tool for creating and continuing great relationships with women. Get her interest with warm voice messages and spontaneous calls; keep her interest with flirty text messages and some risqué phone behavior. Always remember to think about her privacy and yours whenever using mobile phones as a tool for talking.